The child in us is a powerful reminder of the joy and wonder that love can bring, as explored in Enigma’s song “The Child in Us.” This article reflects on the profound message within the lyrics, emphasizing how love serves as a guiding light and the importance of nurturing our inner child. With my personal reflection of these themes, I hope to highlight how embracing both the joy of connection and our youthful spirit can lead to a more fulfilling life.

“Some day you came, and I knew you were the one.

You were the rain, you were the sun,

but I needed both because I needed you.

You are the one I was dreaming of all my life.

When it’s dark, you are my light.

But don’t forget, there’s always our guide.

It is the child in us.” ~ Enigma

There’s a beautiful depth to the feeling of finding “the one”—that person who seems to bring balance, joy, and meaning into your life. This person becomes the rain that nurtures you through challenging times and the sun that warms your soul in moments of happiness. But beyond this romantic connection lies an often overlooked truth: the most profound guide we have is the inner child within us.

The Rain and Sun of Love

When we speak of love as the rain and the sun, we’re talking about love that nourishes and sustains. The rain represents the soothing comfort that comes in difficult times, a love that helps you grow and find healing when life feels heavy. It’s the love that allows you to break down walls, to release old pain, and to feel safe in vulnerability.

The sun, on the other hand, is the warmth and light that lifts you up. It’s the joy, the laughter, the energy that this person brings into your life. They are your source of radiance, someone who lights up your world when everything feels dark. Together, these elements—rain and sun—are what help us blossom into our fullest selves.

In the context of a relationship, this balance of rain and sun is vital. Both are needed to thrive, and both are often found in the person who feels like “the one.” This person becomes more than just a partner—they become the essential element that nourishes your growth, both emotionally and spiritually.

The Long-Awaited Dream

“You are the one I was dreaming of all my life.”

This line speaks to the deep yearning we all have for connection. We often dream of a love that feels destined, a soul who has always been part of our subconscious desires. When we finally meet this person, it can feel as if the pieces of our life puzzle fall into place. It’s that moment when you look into their eyes and know they’ve been part of your journey long before you met them.

But here’s the truth: love doesn’t complete us—it reflects us. It brings to light our deepest desires, dreams, and even our wounds. In this person, you find a mirror, showing you not only the love you longed for but also the parts of yourself you may have forgotten.

The Inner Child: Our Ultimate Guide

Yet, despite the intoxicating depth of love, there’s a critical reminder here: “Don’t forget, there’s always our guide. It is the child in us.”

This line holds a powerful truth. While love may be the rain and sun, our inner child is the root. It is the purest part of ourselves, the essence that knows joy without conditions, curiosity without fear, and love without expectation. This inner child is our ultimate guide through life and relationships, reminding us to stay connected to our authentic selves.

When we grow up, we often bury that childlike innocence beneath layers of responsibility, fear, and doubt. We forget the playfulness and wonder that once came so easily. But when we reconnect with that child in us, we find a deeper sense of wholeness. The inner child teaches us to embrace love with openness, to stay curious, and to let go of the need to control outcomes. It reminds us that even in relationships, we must nourish our own inner worlds.

The inner child also serves as a reminder that while love from another person is beautiful, it should not define us. We need to remember to nurture our own hearts, listen to our needs, and follow our instincts. The presence of the child in us guides us to be present, playful, and authentic in our relationships.

Love and Self-Discovery: The Perfect Balance

So, what happens when we balance the love we give and receive with the wisdom of our inner child? We create a relationship that is grounded not only in connection with another person but also in a deep connection to ourselves. It’s a relationship where both partners can show up as their full, authentic selves, with all their vulnerabilities and strengths.

Love, when nurtured in this way, becomes expansive. It moves beyond the idea of one person being your “everything” and instead becomes a dance of two people, each deeply rooted in their own truth, coming together to create something beautiful.

Loving Fully While Staying True to Yourself

To love fully is to embrace both the rain and the sun that a partner brings into your life. It’s recognizing that while this person may be a source of comfort and light, the true guide on your journey is the inner child within you. That child reminds you to stay curious, to seek joy, and to always honor the playful, creative spark that is uniquely yours.

When we honor the inner child, we learn to love from a place of wholeness, not dependency. We give our hearts freely, but we also take care of the parts of ourselves that need nurturing. This balance is the key to creating lasting, authentic love—love that grows with us, instead of limiting us.

So, the next time you find yourself looking into the eyes of the one who feels like the rain and the sun, remember to also look within. The child in you is your greatest guide, lighting the way to a love that is not just shared with another but deeply rooted in yourself.

This is how we embrace love while staying connected to our own essence—a love that not only flourishes but allows us to grow into the fullest version of ourselves.

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